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Have you ever looked in the mirror and picked yourself apart? Not just your appearance-but your personality, your past, your quirks, and your insecurities? It’s easy to become your own worst critic. We all carry things we wish we could change about ourselves. But what if I told you, that someone out there loves those exact things you are trying to hide?

Message of the day:

1. We’re Wired to See Our Flaws First

Most of us have the habit of focusing on the parts of ourselves we don’t like. That awkward laugh. That overthinking. That scar we have. That part of our upbringing we just wish never happened. We all have things we just don’t seem to like about ourselves. And over time, we start to believe that these things are what makes us unable to be loved.

But here’s the truth: what you see as flaws, someone else sees as a reason to love you more. Those pieces of you that you’ve been trying to suppress and hide could very well be the same thing that someone loves you and connects with you over. These things we look at as flaws, are usually the things that make us more relatable and human. Just because you haven’t learned to love and accept them yet doesn’t mean that someone else can’t.

2. Self-Hatred Isn’t the Full Picture

When you’re used to criticizing yourself, it’s easy to believe everyone else is judging you the same way. But that truthfully never the case. We all live in our own heads, and often the things we are so fixated over are often things that no one else notices. Nobody is truly thinking about you, and you’re not thinking about them either, so no matter what small little thing you believe is a flaw and that everyone will notice, the truth is no one really cares more about you, than you.

And the flip side of this, like i’ve said before, is that most of our flaws people will actually appreciate and will end up accepting us nonetheless. What you might see as something negative or something you hate, someone might love and appreciate you more because of it. Maybe you’re an anxious overthinker. Someone can interpret that as you care deeply about things. Or maybe you’ve got a soft hear. Someone will see it as something that our cold hearted world might need. Moral of the story, is that no matter what flaw you might dislike about yourself, someone will end up appreciating you because of it, so instead of looking at all these things as negative, try to look at them from an outside perspective and find the benefit of it.

3. You Are Lovable As You Are

You don’t have to be perfect to be loved. You don’t have to fix yourself to be worthy of love either. The right people won’t be scared to pour love into you just because you have some flaws, but rather they’d accept you and work with you in order to help you overcome them. They’ll stay no matter what. Because real connection doesn’t come from pretending to be perfect, but from showing who you truly are.

The more you accept the fact that you are flaws, the easier it is for people to love and accept you. No one likes the person who is full of ego and boasts about how “perfect” they are. Just be you, accept your flaws, revel in them, and move on knowing that you don’t have to be perfect to be loved. And self-love doesn’t even relate to being “perfect” it’s about knowing deep down that you are enough, despite all your flaws.

4. How to Accept the Parts You Hide

If you struggle with seeing yourself as worthy of love, here are some things that could help:

• Start noticing your inner critic. Catch yourself when thinking negatively. Truly question them and understand that they are not true.

• Speak about yourself like someone you love. You’d never talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself. So why not offer yourself the same kindness?

• Look for proof of your worth. Think of the people who’ve stayed. The ones who laughed at your jokes, held space for your emotions, appreciated your authenticity. That’s real love.

Main Takeaways

The things you hide are often the things someone will cherish. The parts of you you’re ashamed of? Someone is out there praying they’ll meet someone exactly like you. But, the first step is accepting yourself and developing love for yourself. You have to stop running from your flaws and accept them in order to fully grow.

Someone out there loves every part of you, the good, the bad, and everything in between. And if they can, you can too.

Keep your head up and keep moving forward. You deserve all the love in the world.

As always, I wish you nothing but the best.

Sincerely,

Michael aka themindsetmagnet