How to find Love

I think for a lot of people finding a partner or “love” is one of the most difficult things in life to do. People always say there are “plenty of fish in the sea” but it’s always when you’re looking that you can never seem to find these “fish”.

Why is that?

Over the years in my personal relationship experience and “finding love” I’ve found that when you are actively seeking love or a partner, it will never come. It’s something weird that happens to the way we act when we are desperately seeking a partner. It’s almost as if other people can sense we are in fact desperate.

What should you do then?

This probably isn’t what you want to hear, but I think when you let love come to you, the right person will come. It’s the longer process, but in the end will be the most worth it. I think if you focus your attention on improving yourself and developing yourself into becoming the best version of yourself for both you and your future partner, eventually someone will step into your life (usually at the most unexpected time to).

Now I know what you’re thinking, you’ve probably heard this a million times and you’re still waiting and waiting and still don’t believe in what I’m saying. (I was in the same boat)

Let’s take my personal life as an example. For about a year I was actively seeking out a relationship/partner, going out on dates actively trying to talk to people and overall just doing anything and everything I could in order to get myself out there. And as a result, nothing happened. It was all just a bunch of failed dates that never amounted to anything special. However, after this period of time, I decided to move on and try a different approach. (This is gonna sound so corny, but this is true what I did) I decided to instead focus more on myself. I was working more hours at a my job, spending more time with friends and family, and going to the gym more often. I did this for about 2 years. And just about a couple months ago, without even trying to look very hard I was lucky enough to stumble upon someone special and am now in a relationship.

I tell you my story as a way to motivate and inspire you that love will come, when you become the person capable of giving and receiving that love (romantic love). It may take months, it may take years, but if you are willing to be patient and work on yourself day in and day out, you will eventually find it.

Last thing i want to go over is that love should be something that takes time to achieve. I think that if love were found quick and easy, we wouldn’t value it as high as we do now. It has to be difficult to achieve in order for it to hold any value. That’s true with anything in life as well.

So if you’re going through that waiting period, focus on improving as a person and trust me that the right person and the right love will one day find you.

Wishing you the best always.

-themindsetmagnet