Getting Over Heartbreak

Awhile ago, I posed a poll on Instagram asking what people were struggling with.

I think I received over 300+ responses revolving around various topics, but one of the more popular ones that came up was about how to get over heartbreak.

I believe that getting over heartbreak is one of the most difficult things we as humans have to experience. It’s not a pleasant experience, but can be a catalyst for growth. There are thousands if not millions of cases all around the world of people completely changing their lives after a heartbreak and you can too!

The first thing I want to cover is that one of the most important things you should do when dealing with heartbreak is being honest with yourself and those around you (well those you feel comfortable with at least). The worst thing you can do is lie about how you feel (especially to yourself) as you will eventually convince yourself that you’re over this person without ever feeling any sadness or pain and eventually, it’ll all burst out (especially when you don’t want it too!). You’ll end up saying things or doing things to people that don’t even deserve it all because you were never honest with yourself.

Let yourself feel the pain and sadness. (Yes, I know it’s gonna hurt and you might cry, but that’s okay! You’re human.) And let yourself release any and every emotion available. If you wanna be sad for a day go ahead, put on some sad music and wallow in that sadness, knowing that this will one day pass.

On the opposing side if you hold everything in, it’s almost like a poison. It’ll spread and one day it’ll all just burst out.

There was an analogy I heard the other day regarding getting over a heartbreak. It related it to getting shot with a lead bullet. You can choose to leave it in your body, or take it out. The risk of leaving it there is that all of the components within the bullet have the chance to then spread throughout your body and infect your body as a whole. Whereas if you simply just went through the pain of taking it out at the beginning, you never had to face the problems that were to come.

The next thing I wanted to cover is that love is something we are meant to experience several different times. It may be hard to hear this right now as you may feel as if you will never be loved again, but it in my opinion is true.

We as humans adapt and learn everyday. How can we know and understand the type of love we want without experiencing different types?

I’m not saying to go and get 50 different partners and expect to find out that way, but what I’m saying is that if this relationship or friendship that you’re heartbroken over did not work, analyze it and take that information with you moving forward into the next. With everything you have learned you are then able to go into the next relationship/friendship with a better understanding of the type of person you want.

I understand that going through a heartbreak can be very difficult, I am human too and have gone through a couple as well. It’s some of the most painful and excruciating times you ever have to go through, but also some of the most transformative moments in my personal life. If you’ve read this far I want to say thank you for supporting my videos, I truly appreciate every single one of you. I hope that whatever the circumstance you are going through, that you are able to come out on top and live the happiest you could ever be. Know I’m rooting got you and I wanna see you do well.

-themindsetmagnet